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On marriages

“Many marriages would be better if the husband and wife

clearly understood that they are on the same side.” 

Zig Ziglar

Hilary Hinton”Zig” Ziglar was born on 6 November, 1926 in Gary, Indiana and died November 30, 2012.  He was an author and motivational speaker.

March 3, 2015


Merry Christmas

It is in your power to make of today






Virginia Vidoz


Love and finances in marriage

Money responsable for divorces. Is it the true cause?  Do you really believe that?

Let me not to the marriage of true minds

Admit impediments. Love is not love

Which alters when it alteration finds.

Sonnet 116

William Shakespeare

Can these powerful words give to you the true meaning of love? Is it that today love and facing reality do not go together any more? I believe that many couples after living together for a time, come to the conclusion that reality is an ugly frog, too ugly to be eaten. Throughout the history of mankind, men and women have faced together all sort of problems, issues or difficulties. Each of us faces them every day. Living is facing whatever comes up daily. Why no longer together?

Love has nothing to do with everyday issues. Love and commitment exist or do not exist. Love and commitment admit no “ifs”. If love is washed away by external circumstances it means it was never there. You were blind and saw love were ther was only sexual attraction or attachment or need of company or the sharing of interests that soon disappeared or whatever gave you the idea of love. But it was not love because true love does not die. Love is a feeling. Love is a state of mind. Love is a dream in your heart. And there are no weapons against feelings or dreams. You and only you decide if you stop loving. Nobody can kill love except yourself. The power of love is too strong, nobody can take it away from you without your consent.

Some days ago somebody mailed me an article containing this information: “with the crisis, many relationships are dissolved”.  I admit it is tough. Easy to say, difficult to go through. Lack of money has nothing to do with love. Yes,a better income may be needed. And what has this to do with marriage?  Love is spiritual, money is something material. What has this to do with the essence of the relationship?  All energies  (and human beings have limited energies) are required to think and find out a solution if any problem in life comes up. How to administer better an insufficient income? How not to get tired  uselessly and keep a clear ming amidst the turmoil?  Sharing the experience of solving something else together and working in a team helps to strengthen the relationship. Love is not something somebody else gives to you so that you can feel better, important, cherished or needed. Love you have inside yourself and share with your partner and the rest of the world around you. You cannot look outside yourself what is only inside yourself. You must look inside yourself to find it.

There will always be a reason to stop loving if you want to find one (if there was not true love). Never cheat yourself with excuses. Be honest with yourself and acknowledge the truth, in this way you will come to know yourself better, which is a good thing. Blaming others, life or circumstances is an easy way to hide painful truths. Admitting our mistakes is an act of courage. Love is strong and powerful. True love is forgiving. True commitment is cherishing your partner. But nothing comes from nothing… To be loved first one must be loving and lovable.

I believe in the healing power of love, in the wellness felt in a true hug, in the connection established with simple eye contact and holding of hands. Love is sharing. Share more and you’ll find more points of connection, more intersection. Do things together, talk to find out agreements, seek solutions, face life together. That’s love. Love is simple and only comes from the heart.  And money?  Money is just a trial, just one more lesson life gives us to teach us the things we still have to learn in the endless process of personal growth.  What to do? Learn to solve things rather than divorce. You can divorce this partner but problems will go on coming to you for you to face and solve them. It is the problem that you have to learn to solve satisfactorily. It is as if life thought: “if I go on sending problems to this person, he/she will learn”. But you do not learn and complain. So the sooner you learn to solve them, the better for you.


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A family

A family is a dream come true. The starting point is the relationship with your partner and it is “a dream that will take all the love you can give, everyday of your life and as long as you live”.