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“On children” poem by Kahlil Gibran

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ON CHILDREN

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Your children are not your children.


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They are the sons and daughters of Life’s

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 longing for itself.


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They come through you but not from you,

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And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

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You may give them your love

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but not your thoughts,

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For they have their own thoughts.

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You may house their bodies but not their souls,


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For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,


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which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.


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You may strive to be like them,

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but seek not to make them like you.


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For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

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You are the bows from which your children


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as living arrows are sent forth.


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The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,


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and He bends you with His might


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that His arrows may go swift and far.


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Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;

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For even as He loves the arrow that flies,


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so He loves also the bow that is stable.

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Kahlil Gibran

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COMMENTARY

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Love is not about possession. Love is to feel free to love without expectations or rewards. As Kahlil Gibran said: “If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours. If they don’t, they never were.”  Love them and strengthen their souls, make them aware so that they can see for themselves.

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Birds are taught to sing, taught to fly and then encouraged to leave the nest.  Beware that they grow wings as strong as those of eagles and allow them to fly. Teach them fearlessness, let them be free. Teach them not to care about others’s opinions. Teach them LOVE by loving them and if they want to fly, by all means, leave them. Think of them, not of you.

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If you are afraid they will one day leave you, you will show it somehow. Enjoy them while they are around, do your very best any minute you share, teach them to laugh, teach them awareness, teach them actions and consequences, teach them to pay attention, teach them gratefulness. Give them tools.  Love is the best remedy for all, put love in  every now, just love, love and more love.  

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Fearful parents cannot bring up  fearless children.Remember that your fear is your responsibility, not your children’s.  They will be your mirror. They will be conditioned by your conditioning. Do not allow your emotions blind you, be stable, be aware. You would not like to see your children always in kindergarden, let them grow into healthy adults and one day be happy to see that you have fulfilled your mission. But as life is “now”, enjoy the “now”.

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